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Coping with an Inevitable Change: How Dealing with Anxiety Saved My Life

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Life has a way of handing us storms we never see coming. For me, that storm came in the form of a devastating divorce and the heartbreaking loss of child custody.

I can still remember the moment it all hit me. Papers were signed. My home felt emptier than ever. The sound of silence became unbearable. I was lost, angry, and drowning in a tidal wave of emotions. Anxiety wasn’t just a word—it was a force living inside me. Some days, the darkness felt so heavy that I questioned whether life was worth living at all.

But something deep within me refused to give up. Even at my lowest point, a small voice whispered, “There is more to your story than this.”




Hitting Rock Bottom: Coping with Divorce and Custody Loss

When my world collapsed, I lost more than a marriage and custody. I lost my sense of self. Anxiety had moved in like an uninvited guest—racing thoughts, sleepless nights, panic attacks that made it hard to breathe.

At first, I tried to ignore it, thinking I could “power through.” But grief doesn’t work that way. Anxiety doesn’t disappear by pretending it’s not there.

I reached a point where I had to make a choice: let this pain consume me, or learn to manage anxiety and create a new life.

The Turning Point: Choosing to Live

One quiet evening, I had a moment of clarity. If life had to be rebuilt from scratch, I would be the architect.

I reached out for help—therapy, support groups, and long talks with friends I had drifted from. I began journaling and praying every morning, thanking God for allowing me to wake up. That small act of gratitude shifted my outlook.

Walking outside became a habit. The fresh air reminded me that the world kept moving, and the sun still rose even when my world felt dark.

Managing Anxiety: What Helped Me Heal

Through counseling, mindfulness, and self-care practices, I discovered tools to cope with anxiety after divorce and custody loss:

  1. Breathing exercises to calm racing thoughts
  2. Music therapy to lift my spirit
  3. Heart-healthy meals and vitamins to support my body
  4. Time outdoors to clear my mind

Slowly, I learned to shift my focus from what I lost to what I could create. Anxiety became not just an enemy but a teacher—showing me how strong I could be and how deeply I could grow.

Reinventing Life After Loss

Today, I am not the same person I was during that dark chapter. I am more resilient, more compassionate, and more alive.

My days are filled with purpose—whether it’s helping others, working on my wellness journey, or simply savoring moments with loved ones.

No, the pain didn’t vanish overnight. Healing is not a straight line. But by facing my anxiety instead of running from it, I discovered a new version of myself—one who can thrive even after loss.

Final Thoughts: Finding Hope Beyond Anxiety

Divorce and custody loss nearly broke me, but learning to manage anxiety saved my life. It taught me that change, though inevitable, doesn’t have to be the end of your story. It can be the beginning of a new one—one filled with unexpected strength and hope.


If you’re walking through your own storm, know this: you are not alone. Change can hurt. Anxiety can feel overwhelming. But healing is possible, and life on the other side can be richer than you ever believed.



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